PROJECT: RELATIONSHIPS & MARRIAGES - IMPORTANT INFORMATION
- Isabel Spies
- Oct 30
- 5 min read
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For many years, Mr. Mike Bolhuis has been actively involved in assisting couples to strengthen their relationships and overcome personal and marital challenges. Through his experience and deep understanding of human nature,
he has become a trusted expert in helping couples rebuild trust, improve understanding, and create lasting partnerships.
One of the most vital principles he emphasises is effective communication—the foundation of every successful marriage.
Regarding the importance of marriage, Mr. Mike Bolhuis shared his insights on the subject during a recent interview.
(This interview is in Afrikaans.)
THE ESSENCE OF MARRIAGE:
A strong marriage is built on mutual growth, understanding, and shared values.
Every individual brings unique traits and personal beliefs into the relationship, and it is up to each couple to determine what matters most to them. The essence of marriage lies in companionship, commitment, and, for many, the shared goal of building a family.
THE SIX PILLARS OF A HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE:
COMMUNICATION:
Honest and open communication strengthens understanding.
Partners should freely express their hopes, dreams, and challenges, while also listening with empathy and patience.
HONESTY:
Truthfulness, both with oneself and one’s partner, forms the basis of trust and emotional safety.
LOVE:
True love is demonstrated through daily acts of care, respect, and selflessness.
It grows deeper over time and becomes the anchor of the relationship.
TRUST:
A marriage must rest on unwavering trust.
When partners have full confidence in one another, they create a secure emotional and physical space.
RESPECT:
Mutual respect ensures equality and appreciation.
It allows both individuals to have a voice and reduces unnecessary conflict.
LOYALTY:
Loyalty means standing by your partner, valuing their opinions, and protecting the privacy of the relationship.
Challenges must be addressed together, never shared outside the marriage.
KEY FOCUS AREAS:
In his work with couples, Mr. Bolhuis focuses on the importance of truth, communication, emotional honesty, and spiritual grounding—the elements that sustain and restore harmony within relationships.
1. THE POWER OF TRUTH:
Human beings consist of body, soul, and spirit, and dishonesty damages all three.
Lies—whether unconscious (spoken out of habit) or intentional (deliberate deception)—erode trust and connection.
Truth, on the other hand, brings peace and authenticity.
2. THE PRINCIPLES OF COMMUNICATION:
Healthy communication is rooted in honesty, certainty, and responsibility.
Words hold immense power; once spoken, they cannot be undone.
Conflict often arises when people listen selectively or interpret messages based on preconceived ideas.
True communication requires:
Active listening – Allow your partner to finish speaking before you respond.
Patience – Take time to clarify and understand before reacting.
Responsible honesty – Be truthful yet kind. Avoid avoidance or passive silence.
Courage – Do not fear addressing issues directly. Growth requires openness.
3. CERTAINTY VS. UNCERTAINTY:
According to Mr. Bolhuis, uncertainty is one of the greatest relationship destroyers.
It leads to insecurity, emotional instability, and mistrust. Questions such as “What does my partner really think of me?” or “Am I still loved?” reflect this harmful state.
While uncertainty cannot be eliminated, it can be managed through truthful conversation, consistency, and emotional reassurance.
Certainty builds confidence and safety—two non-negotiable elements in any relationship.
4. TRUE LOVE - THE SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION:
True love is deeply spiritual and reflects the Biblical principle of loving one another as you love yourself and God.
It avoids harm, dishonesty, and sin.
Genuine love is expressed through sincere communication and mutual respect.
A healthy relationship requires balanced self-love grounded in faith.
Loving yourself appropriately allows you to love your partner authentically.
Self-awareness and humility nurture reality-based love—one that acknowledges imperfections but chooses commitment nonetheless.
THE REALITY OF MARRIAGE:
Every marriage faces real challenges—ranging from physical health, body image, finances, sexual intimacy, and family issues to external pressures such as work stress or societal expectations.
When these matters are ignored, emotional distance develops.
Open discussion of these topics brings understanding, closeness, and unity.
Marriage is a sacred partnership that demands truth, loyalty, communication, and spiritual alignment.
Through his dedicated work with couples, Mr. Mike Bolhuis of Specialised Security Services continues to promote emotional strength, honesty, and clear communication as the essential ingredients of enduring love.
When truth and understanding form the foundation of a relationship, it not only strengthens the bond between partners but also contributes to a stable, loving family—an essential cornerstone of a healthy society.
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